Places: Tokyo, Japan

I miss Tokyo. It’s been four months since I set foot in that place, and the desire to come back is quite strong.

Maybe it’s because 5 days was never enough to cover the whole city. But still, my 5-day stay in Tokyo was enough to love the city, and it’s adequate enough for me to make plans and return in the near future.

5 Things, 5 Questions #1: Carl (@sloppydasein)

I’ve been working on a new segment on my blog where I talk to people and ask them 5 questions on a multitude of things (books, food, advice, exciting things, and about themselves), but their answers for each question have to be a list of five things related to the topic. As a kick-off to this series, I asked my friend Carl to share his top five picks for books, food, and more.

Carl is a friend that I met during my college years (which is not too long ago, by the way). Although I’ve heard of him ever since my freshman year, it was only during a summer semester in my sophomore year wherein we were properly introduced. Since then, I’ve considered Carl as a friend. What I admire most about him are his passion and creativity. I’m not gonna ramble on as much, so here are some of the things that I learned about him:

1) in 5 words, describe yourself.

1. Adventurous
2. Curious
3. Rational
4. Observant
5. Human

2) what are 5 things that always excite you?

1. Performing on stage.
2. That moment before watching a movie I’ve been wanting to watch for a long time.
3. Holding a new book.
4. Mingling in social events.
5. Having conversations that go into deep territory.

3) what are 5 meals that you would eat over and over again?

1. Spaghetti
2. Maki rolls
3. Longganisa and egg with garlic rice
4. Sweet and spicy pancit canton with pandesal and tuna spread
5. Pancakes

4) name 5 books that you would recommend?

1. “Kafka on the Shore” by Haruki Murakami
2. “Para Kay B” by Ricky Lee
3. “The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran
4. “Sophie’s World” by Jostein Gaarder
5. “Lumayo Ka Nga Sa Akin” by Bob Ong

5) as parting words, give 5 pieces of advice that you would give to your younger self, or to people younger than you.

1. It’s okay to be wrong sometimes.
2. When things don’t work out, it’s not always your fault.
3. People can be mean, but you don’t have to be.
4. There is a time to listen and a time to speak out. But it’s never the same time.
5. The world is too chaotic for you to be sure of anything; be open to possibilities, thank the universe for whatever it gives you, and use this to your improvement.

Thanks for this, Carl! Carl is indeed one of the wisest and most genuine people that I know, and I am so lucky to be one of his friends! I hope you learned more about this awesome guy, and don’t hesitate to follow and read his blog on http://sloppydasein.wordpress.com/ .

**Note: some questions were edited.

How To Be Chill

I have a confession to make: I forgot how to chill. I used to be a pretty chill person, but as I got older, I started caring about many things— even things that should be of no importance to me anymore. For example, aside from caring about the things that are important (work, family, friends, personal well-being) to me, I still give a fuck about the unpleasant things that happened to me in the past, or I still pay attention to my insecurities. I guess one of the reasons why I forgot how to chill is because I want to compensate for my past failures and making sure that I don’t mess things up. A part of me is screaming that failure will cut me off from other opportunities. As a result, my lack of chill has made me more agitated, unfocused, and stressed than ever before. I care about practically everything in the world, and I want to give my all in everything that I care about, but as a result, I’ve become more scattered, to the point that I cannot bring myself to give my all in things that actually matter.

I’ve been reminded over and over again by the people who care for me to focus and figure out my priorities, but it’s much easier said than done. I guess I could conclude that my lack of prioritizing contributes to my lack of chill, because I want to go about everything that comes my way and give my all. But then that’s not the correct way to go about things, because it will just leave you in shambles.

Now that I’ve unloaded my thoughts on this, I guess it’s about time that I take action and create small changes in my life so I can be more chill— and focused.