It Doesn’t Have To Always Suck: Some Notes and Lessons on Adulthood

(Note: I am still a noob at adulting, but allow me to share some of the lessons I learned along the way. In addition, forgive me if I may sound passive-aggressive in this entry sometimes)

As a 21-year old who has only entered the world of adulthood after graduating from college, transitioning to the adult life has been a bit difficult. Well, to be honest here, I always have a difficult time transitioning and adjusting to changes that come my way. For example, it took me four semesters in college to find my groove and finally step up. I guess you could call me a late bloomer, but it hasn’t been easy for me to let go of things, that’s why it’s hard for me to accept the changes that life has brought along the way.

The past year has been full of changes, and every time a change has occurred, I have been constantly reminded of how I need to be less stubborn and more open-minded to the changes happening in my life.

Anyway, I probably have digressed too much. What was supposed to be an entry talking about my struggles (and triumphs) with adulthood has got me ruminating about my resistance towards change. But the way I see it, entering adulthood has been one of the biggest changes in my life, and as I go through the motions of it, I have to be more accepting and open towards the changes that are coming my way.

Allow me to share some of the lessons that I’ve learned as I go through the motions of adulthood, so here are the things that I’ve learned when I started adulting:

  1. Government documents may be a pain to accomplish, but the feeling of finally getting them is priceless.
  2. It’s perfectly okay to cry, but if you have to cry, do it somewhere where people cannot see you.
  3. Continuously expose yourself to different ways to get to your office, so that you can have alternatives whenever the situation calls for it.
  4. If you really like something, you should go for it (especially in the field of makeup [well, makeup deals in particular]).
  5. Breaks are important— especially during intense times.
    • A personal story: After I finished my short course, I went to Japan for our family vacation. The trip was a necessary break from the anxiety that I was feeling during my job search, and it made me realize that I need to stop and enjoy whatever I am experiencing at the moment once in a while.
  6. Raising a cat is no joke. It takes patience, several rounds of hide-and-seek, and a ton of cat scratches to get your cat to love you.
  7. Being a stubborn, stuck-up perfectionist is the worst person to be in the workplace (Trust me, I learned [and still learning] that the hard way).
  8. THERE’S ALWAYS A GOOD OPPORTUNITY IN EVERY ADVERSITY!!!! Remember that!!! ūüėÄ
  9. Holding on to anything negative (negative thoughts or negative feelings, or both) for too long will eat you up and get in the way of your bright future, so do away with those negative thoughts and feelings!
  10. If you are having a very difficult time believing in yourself, remind yourself every single day that you are fine and good, and that you are capable of doing great things.
  11. Make use of technology — and incorporate it in your life as much as you can.
  12. Do one thing that scares you every day, and be open to it —- whether it’s figuring out Excel formulas, embracing operational tasks, or talking to your crush, just do it.
  13. Everything will get better, so tiwala lang.
  14. Time management is a hard skill to master, but find ways to make it easier.
    • Set a timer when doing tasks.
    • Create a schedule for every task you are doing.
    • Prioritize your tasks.
  15. Be open-minded to constructive criticism.
  16. Lost your chill? Do the things that you love, and you will slowly gain it back.
    • I’ve said this in a previous blog entry, and I’ve said it numerous times on Twitter that I have lost my chill because of work, and my numerous attempts to compensate for my shortcomings. Fortunately, I think I have been starting to regain it because I’ve been channeling my negative thoughts into something positive.
  17. The first steps to adulthood may be shaky, but you will get better at it over time.
  18. Never ever give up. It will get better.

 

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Notes on Master of None

(warning: there might be some spoilers ahead)

Is it too brave of a declaration to say that Aziz Ansari’s¬†Master of None¬†is a must-watch television show for millennials? With popular culture riding on the millennial wave, it’s easy to get lost and be confused with the numerous references and experiences of the millennial generation. However, with¬†Master of None,¬†millennials will probably have an easy time to relate to the numerous references and experiences of the characters in the show.

The show is centered around Dev (played by Aziz Ansari), a 32-year old actor who is navigating his life around New York City, while juggling his career and several relationships. In the series, viewers will meet Dev’s friends, his parents, and his love interest, and how his relationships with these people affect his life. ¬†At the same time, viewers will also discover how Dev navigates his career— especially in the aspect of race.

What makes Master of None decidedly different from similarly-themed shows is that it’s deliberate in depicting thought-provoking topics, while making it digestible for the viewers to understand it. For example, the episode “Ladies and Gentlemen” tackles the inequality between men and women at work, and how women constantly face the danger of potential sexual predators around them. The episode also shows how we (women and men) can be feminists in our own ways. In this case, Dev showed his support for his female co-stars by giving them the spotlight in the TV commercial that they are working on, after he expressed concern that the women in the commercial are being used for eye candy. On the other hand, the episode “Parents” is a funny, refreshing take on understanding our parents’ struggles and victories. The episode comically depicts the struggles and hardships of Dev and Brian’s immigrant parents, in order to provide Dev and Brian the comforts that they are experiencing in the present. This episode will make you rethink how we view our relationships with our parents, and how their struggles can help us appreciate them better.

Aside from these thought-provoking topics, the show celebrates its uniqueness through the its depiction of food. The show is a feast for foodies everywhere, with numerous mentions and tacos and pasta for viewers to be excited about. In addition, food in Master of None has been a force in building relationships between the different characters in the show.

When it comes to the millennial experience,¬†Master of None¬†depicts how technology has influenced the millennial generation navigate and face life. The show also depicts Dev’s indecisiveness about his future, and his indecisiveness towards his relationships. The indecisiveness, and the increasing reliance on technology are two characteristics that have shaped the millennial generation. As a millennial writing this, we have tools like the internet and social media to show us the numerous options that we can have in order to go where we are supposed to be, but every single day, the choices being presented to us through these mediums have made it more difficult for us to ultimately decide on the path that we want to take.

As a final verdict, Master of None is an offbeat, earnest, and heartwarming show that engages its viewers to rethink and re-evaluate their relationships and life decisions, while enjoying a taco and a glass of iced tea (or a helping of carbonara).

 

On Cleaning

My dad asked me to do a room clean-up today. The room clean-up was something that he asked me to do at least every quarter, so I can get rid of old things, and make my room more livable.

To be honest with you, I have a love-hate relationship with cleaning my room. I liked thriving in some form of chaos, and I was adamant that I could find things better when my room is in disarray. The thought of cleaning my room was something that I detested, and maybe, I found it as a way to rebel from my fourth-grade teacher’s teachings on 5S and cleanliness.

I proceeded on cleaning my room anyway (and I am still in the process of finishing up my cleaning). It’s quite ironic that even though I hate cleaning, I like the idea of purging and getting rid of things. For the longest time, I’ve been meaning to purge and get rid of the things that I find unnecessary to me. But anyway, over the course of the day, I’ve gotten to fix up several areas of my room, and I also got rid of many things. Yay!

Anyway, if there’s a key takeaway from today’s task, it’s that cleaning up is necessary ¬†(and helpful). I shall do this more often, so I can get my mind and my life in order, because that’s what I need. But for now, I shall fix the remaining mess in my bedroom. I have too much stuff in my bed, and I need to look for a safe place where I can place my things. However, I’m happy that I found places for my books, magazines, notebooks, and toiletries. Here’s to progress.

“You don’t have to go at it alone.”

I hate to admit this, but I actually think I am self-sabotaging. I am self-sabotaging, in a sense that I tend to be very stubborn and hardheaded about a lot of things. That stubbornness have made me disregard the advice and the words of the people who¬†genuinely¬†love and care for me, and not listen to them. Instead, I do a lot of things according to my own way, to the extent that everything goes wrong in the end. Even if I’ve been advised numerous times to seek help and guidance whenever I am unsure of things, I still keep on treading uncharted territory, hoping to find the answers and consequences of my actions. And as a consequence, I mess things up.

It’s highly selfish for me to constantly live a life that’s patterned on the idea of being alone all the time. There are people who care for me and root for me, and in turn, I should be more open to them as well. At the end of the day, I’m the one shutting myself out — and destroying myself in the process.